This post is all about your life when you stay committed.
The hardest part is always starting…
So what happens when you’ve stayed committed to your goals?
Most people are so focused on how to get started that they might not be prepared for what happens next.
There are fundamental shifts when you’re accountable and you’ll notice different behavior from your peers as well.
You might be wondering “Shouldn’t everyone just be happy and proud of me though?”…
And unfortunately, that’s not always the case.
As you stay determined and focused on your own improvement, you’ll find these 7 realizations to be true in your life:
Things change with them.
Unfortunately, we can’t control the people around us.
And there will always be people that awe us and people that disappoint us.
That’s just part of life and you have to know when there’s toxicity.
While your goals are leading the way to a better life for you, no one sees the end result you’ve been imagining in your head and they won’t understand your vision a lot of the time.
1. People will get uncomfortable with your commitment.
There’s no way around it, we are trained for the comfort zone.
Fewer people than you’d think are willing to make an uncomfortable change to their normal habits to achieve something they’ve always wanted.
I say wanted because we usually don’t want it bad enough to do something about it.
So when you’re actually going for something and making changes and sticking to them, people get uncomfortable.
Like graciously denying dessert if everyone else is having some or sticking with water instead of wine during happy hour.
Typically people won’t credit your choices as a dedication to your goal.
We’re accustomed to the comfort zone and we are comfortable with everyone being in it with us. Whenever someone leaves the comfort zone, others’ comfort zones can be slightly disrupted.
And that’s not your fault.
2. People will discredit you or make light of your “discipline”.
This goes along with the whole “you’re making people uncomfortable because you’re leaving the communal comfort zone” thing.
There’s some unsaid sentiment that if we’re all suffering together, then we’re all in it together.
(and I’m using suffering *extremely* lightly)
But if someone’s stuck in inaction, it can be extremely difficult to see others’ success.
So people might start diminishing your discipline and discrediting your ability to stay committed because they are unable to admit such determination exists.
They’ll tell you “Oh I could never do that” and then turn around and say “Well it must be her genes/luck/etc.”.
Most people won’t understand why you’re willing to make your life harder now because they can’t see that it’s making your life easier later.
Granted, your friends and family are hopefully unlike most other people and would support you rather than question you…
But we all know this isn’t always the case.
Our friends and family can sometimes be the most nay-saying because they don’t want to see us fail or get hurt.
(i.e. leave the comfort zone)
Things change with you.
You’re doing this for yourself and sometimes you’ll be the only one telling yourself to keep going.
3. No one will cheerlead for you & that’s okay.
Sure, you might have friends to check in with for motivation every once in a while…
But on the late nights and early mornings, at every meal, at every choice you have to make throughout the day…
You’ll be the only one to remind yourself why you’re doing this.
4. It will be lonely at times but you’re know you’re not alone.
While no one in your immediate circle might understand/fully be able to support you, let social media be your friend.
So if you’re feeling lonely on your journey, don’t hesitate to find like-minded people online that are more than willing to connect.
It’s literally what I’m here for.
5. You can make mistakes and you can keep going.
You’ve definitely realized by now that it hasn’t been a perfect journey and the only thing that matters is consistency and perseverance.
You know that mistakes will happen, there will be less than perfect days, and yet, there is still always tomorrow.
There isn’t anything standing in your way because you know you can keep going and unpause instead of starting over.
6. You’ll want to see others succeed and stay committed to themselves (no jealousy).
And once you know what that pride feels like, you’ll want others to find success too!
Instead of others wanting you to stay in the comfort zone, you’ll want them to join you outside and start realizing their dreams.
When you’re around others with big dreams, the whole atmosphere changes.
(trust me, I’ve got this whole blog post on the power of this)
7. You’ll realize the goal keeps changing.
The goal you initially had may have changed as your ambitions have changed, and that’s wonderful.
If we’re constantly challenging ourselves to take uncomfortable action, we’re only ever-improving.
Don’t you agree?
What are some truths you’ve learned since committing to your goals? Email me at email@example.com and let’s have a conversation!
© Woman of Culture 2022