Something has happened.
Your world is falling apart, maybe quickly and maybe slowly, but definitely crumbling.
And you’re wondering will I ever be happy again?
And how do I become happy again?
First, start here.
Have you wallowed in your emotions already?
If you haven’t, you probably should.
It’s tough to move on and cross over to happiness if you haven’t fully felt your feelings.
So take a moment and think about it, if you’ve felt everything you’ve needed to feel and are ready to go, then let’s go.
Let’s take a breath…
To think about what else is going on in your life.
Are you overwhelmed? Or the opposite, having a lack of interest?
What is the core issue – is it something that’s happened recently (a sudden change in life’s normalcy like a breakup, death, or losing a job), or is a lack of something in your everyday life (feeling unloved or unworthy or imperfect)?
Once you know what the core of your unhappiness is, we can name it and face it.
(And no, you might not find the core per se, but at least finding one root will help).
Once you’ve named it,
You have to decide what you’re going to do.
Here’s the hardest part that honestly no one wants to admit they knew was coming.
You determine your happiness.
Now I’m not pretending to be a doctor and I can’t suggest what to do with certain mental or physical limitations here.
I’m just speaking to someone who’s been denying themselves happiness on some level.
So take this as advice and not a prescription but we choose how we embrace our feelings.
This is why you’ve already taken your moment to feel all the negative feelings you had to feel before starting this part.
To become happy again.
Happiness is a state of mind, you don’t just suddenly become happy and suddenly become unhappy.
How you live out your desires and develop your habits determines if you feel fulfilled or not.
It’s hard to be happy when you’re not fulfilled.
That’s also why you should look inwards when you’re unhappy and work towards fixing yourself first.
Sometimes it’s easier to run to others or use your family/friends as a crutch.
Leaning on them is helpful in the beginning but doesn’t help anyone when you come to expect they’ll carry you.
Eventually, it will all come down to this –
You have to choose if you’re going to stay in the certainty of negativity or work towards positivity and happiness.
In case you need a reminder to never doubt yourself, use my favorite mantra.
Let’s do a quick mindset check and allow me to ask an obvious question –
Do you want to be happy again?
Because if your answer is yes but you don’t want to put in the work or decide to be happy (you just want it to happen) then your mindset isn’t in the right space yet.
It can be work but it should be something you’re willing to do because you know it’s worth it.
If you don’t think it’s worth it then you’re question is probably much deeper than how can I become happy again.
So be honest and true with yourself, are you ready to be happy again?
© Woman of Culture 2021